Friday, 10 February 2017

Students Are My All Time Teacher !

It has been more than 7 years in the field of academics. Over the past several years I’ve taught hundreds of students and have spent countless hours teaching and counselling them. When I’d started my career as teaching, I thought I had all the answers as I was having one professional master degree in my hand. At that time I was so ready to unleash my knowledge on the world. Initially I had no idea that I would learn as much as from my students as they would learn from me. My students are teaching me from past many years and their teachings have reinforced key principles of success in my own life. Their teachings will also serve you well in your journey as you lead and influence in any realm of life.

First impressions are deceptive-I always believe that time has its own way of revealing someone’s true character. The students who seem quite intelligent and confident in the beginning will sometimes end up on academic probation. On the other hand, the students who seem like a slacker will sometimes surprise you with their discipline, sincerity, kindness and creativity.
In our life too, we tend to make snap judgments about people based on their appearance and a few scraps of knowledge about them. Sometimes their impressions turn out to be wrong as we get to know more about them and their stories.
Relationships are more important than degrees-The irony of education is that we academicians spend years earning degrees that give us position. But degrees, certificates or positions don’t guarantee that we will change lives around us. People may respect you for your accomplishments, but they will love you if you invest in relationships. They don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
It’s important to know what you don’t know-Most teachers will tell you the three hardest words to say are “I don’t know “.As a teacher, we are supposed to have all the answers but true learning is not just about gaining knowledge. It’s about having a curious mind and willingness to transform and grow. It’s about the excitement and determination for finding out the answers. People are tired of the experts who claim to have all the answers. They are looking for guides and counselors who can provide them feedback, direction and motivation.
You need to show tough love sometimes. It’s a human psychology, that we always take advantage of people who are liberal to us. I consider myself a very democratic faculty who tries to maintain a positive, relaxed atmosphere in the classroom. Although I don’t like personal confrontation but at times it becomes essential. So I occasionally throw a student out of my class of being disrupting. Sometimes I don’t give entry to the late comers and refuse students request to turn in late work because they need to learn the importance of discipline in their life. With the advent of social media, students are losing their focus and concentration. I don’t want my students to be serious but they need to be sincere enough in all aspects of their life. So a faculty should try to show grace and tough love depending upon situation. One can’t be always strict and can’t be too lenient all the time.
Take feedback positively- Teachers have to go through one students’ feedback mechanism every year where their students rate them on the basis of some parameters. Since every student has its own way of perceiving performance so sometimes we don’t get good remarks. It happens with most of us so with me too. But if we can set aside our insecurities and take our feedback positively then we can get good insight of ourselves. Teachers should not feel low if not rated favorably but they should try to work upon their weaknesses for their overall development.

Although I’m sure that one can learn many more things from the people around him but these teachings continue to transform my thinking about students. We should always remember that one can never graduate from the classroom of life. 

Monday, 26 December 2016

Self Realization is very Significant !

Physics and Computers (esp Software) are the two most difficult subjects which were beyond my understanding during school days. I always admire people who are good in these two subjects. I had surrendered before Physics after my secondary education and opted management in graduation. But Computers?? How come any one gets rid of it? You can't imagine your survival without having knowledge of it. I don’t know why? But files, computer’s operations, dialogue boxes on screen scare me to death. Although time has passed and now I am performing far better. But still I have miles to go for it......
Want to share one wonderful incident of my life which makes you realize that whatever I am saying above is not wrong.
Once (In 2012) my PC in the office was not working and so I'd complained about it. My Lab's head came to me and after checking the PC told me that its window got corrupted. He then asked me to send the system. As per his instructions. I have sent it immediately to the lab for the dissection.
Few minutes later, I received a call from the lab.
Lab Asst- Ma'am Apne kya bhijwaya hai??
Me- Are apne hi to kaha tha ki iski window corrupt hai.
Lab Asst-So what? Where is the CPU?
Me-Sir ! par window to monitor mein open hoti wai bhijwa dia. :-P
Lab Asst-Started laughing on me and said Sadhana Ma'am ! man gaye apko.

On that day I've realized that, Computer is still not my cup of tea. And even today in 2016, my husband keeps his all gadgets beyond my reach and he can trust me for everything except for this. A man whose advice people seek while buying a gadget has given up before his wife. Three cheers for me !! :-)

Friday, 23 December 2016

Only Faith, Not Hope

Why not take a chance on faith? Not religion, but faith. Not hope, but faith. I don't believe in hope. Hope is a beggar. Hope walks through the fire and faith leaps over it......
This commencement address of Jim Carrey has changed my life like anything. After listening to him...I had deleted this word HOPE from my dictionary and started having faith on everything I ever wanted in my life......Trust me ! It works.

We can learn many more things from his speech. 

Karma: A Great Teacher

Do you believe that there is one supreme energy right up there, continuously watching our actions? Although this energy is controlling the universe but it too can’t help us with the effects of our "Karma".

Since I am more spiritual than religious so I believe in it!!


We all need to be very conscious about our deeds because Karma hits you back at the most unexpected times.
I have few learning till this stage of my life, which I would like to share with all of you:
1. Your life is the manifestation of relationships you share with people around you...esp. with your parents. I have read somewhere that bad relationship with your father will never give you financial success and with your mother will put so many obstacles in your life. So never hurt your parents and try to fix everything with them if it exists, after all you owe this life to them.

2. Never ever ditch anyone who trusts you blindly. Due to some evolutionary reasons we have such bad tendencies. But at least leave those who have blind faith in you.

3. Be thankful for everything you have got in your life. You are the most blessed soul if you are born with a healthy mind and body.

4. Be the first to help others, don’t bother if you have to cover some distance for it. The efforts you put today will eventually come back to you with lots of good things in returns.

5. Always remember that no one in this world can ever harm you if your intentions are pure.

"Law of Karma “is a very smart teacher, you can't fool it.
Sorry for such a lengthy and hefty post, Husband out of work to do;-p

Thursday, 15 December 2016

Shiva: My Hero !

“Fire is His head, the sun and moon His eyes, space His ears, the Vedas His speech, the wind His breath, the universe His heart. From His feet the Earth has originated. Verily, He is the inner self of all beings.”

Saturday, 18 April 2015

I Remain D Remains Of......

The harbour I set sail from
May not be there now.
The grey granite-laid alleys
The old streets smelling of pickled radish
The tall arched doors opening to them
The thin, endless frills
The midnight's music and dance behind them too.

The temples I have prayed in
Might have turned into cemeteries
My prayers there might be growing as cactus
My gods will not understand my sorrows anymore.

My children are orphans in nameless countries
In their eyes, are depths
Deep enough to drown me to death.

I have to set off on another voyage
To discover my own country.

I am not scared of giant sharks and pirates
I have no fear of killer waves and sea-ghosts
My compass never errs
My ship will never hit any rock.

But I can't stand
That solitary star following me from the very start
This candle that no wind can put out
This mast standing as always
This sail reluctant to drop down
And this silence the sea heaps up at the bottom.

When I step in
Sand grains rise like virgins
The sea enters my blood
The night anchors in my flesh
And the cavalry of desires
Walk me blindfolded
Through the bottomless marshes.

I never land in the continents
I want to discover.
I am a mariner
Who died in a shipwreck that didn't happen
Who prefers to believe she is not born yet.

Between the ends of peninsulas
Unmarked in history,
And the fingertips
Absent in life;
The remains of innumerable shipwrecks
No one knows about.

Courtesy: Poyil Rajeevan

Wednesday, 4 February 2015

Four walls of My Room

These four walls of my room.....

Have seen enough and listened much.
They saw me laughing,they saw me crying.
They saw me worrying over why two plus two is not making four in life??

They helped me to hide my tears,
They helped me to disclose my fears.
They have given me their ears to share my deepest secrets.

Nameless,faceless but a truthful companion.
These four walls of my room.............

PS: Not at all having any poetry talent in me.Just few lines,written in a sequence.